I really seriously want to know how a Gay marriage is supposed to denigrate the sanctity of marriage? I look at marriage from my own perspective, that of my parents. My parents were both married several times. They were married at a time when it was common place for teens to get hitched. Dad was 16 and Mom was barely 14. My mothers parents had to sign for them to get married. It is my own Granma, the same one who signed for her 14 year old daughter to marry my father that would later refuse to acknowledge my own wedding some 35 years later.
There was no RSVP, no card, no gift, not even a phone call from Granma. That was ten years ago and the wound still hurts. How does that effect my relationship with Gram? I make the obligatory phone calls, Christmas and mothers day. My Gram hurt me deeply, while I could not get legally married she failed to even pretend to be happy for me. Two of my Aunts, my mothers sisters, behaved the exact same way. Yet they all wonder why I fail to make the trek home to Michigan on a regular basis to visit them. They wonder why I don't call more often.
The fact that I cannot get married legally has an impact on my family. Those in the family that have failed to acknowledge my relationships and my life receive the same kind of treatment they have shown me. Why should I celebrate their marriages, babies and anniversaries when they can't even pretend to be happy for the same kind of events in my life?
LGBT's are working hard to get marriage laws changed nationwide, yet what they are failing to realize is that voting on this kind of an issue is stupid. Why should the majority get the right to vote on the rights of a minority. Does anyone honestly think that if we had voted on the civil rights of African Americans in the 60's that any state in the entire south or the red state west would have ever voted for them?
Straight people have done more to denigrate marriage than I could ever humanly possibly accomplish in a lifetime. As a citizen I pay taxes into a system that fails to ever give me the benefits that heterosexuals take for granted. I could spend the next twenty years of my life in a monogamous relationship with the man of my dreams yet we would never be able to share in the privilege of federal recognition of our relationship. How fucked up is that?
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Well said. And you are so right, it makes no sense to vote on civil rights.
I keep going round and round on this whole marriage thing. Perhaps I'm just not smart enough to understand it.
I thought it was illegal to discriminate based on gender. If that is so, why does that not apply to gay marriage? While I am straight and kind of anti-marriage for me personally, denying anyone the legal right to do anything based on gender is just wrong. Discrimination based on sexual orientation is really discrimination based on gender. If I were in a relationship with another woman and wanted to marry her, the fact that I couldn't marry her would be because I was not a man and that is supposed to be unconstitutional.
Looking at this issue, reading and researching what I find is that the whole 'gay marriage issue' for the most part is not about gender, sexual orientation or equal rights (referring to the opposition to gay marriage). What it really seems to me to be about is religion. People talk about "defining marriage as between a man and a woman the way god intended". The money behind the anti-gay marriage movement comes mostly from churches and religious organizations. We are supposed to have separation of church and state. I think if "the church" wants to be involved in lawmaking, they should no longer enjoy their tax-free status. Is marriage itself, gay or otherwise, a legal issue or a religious one?
We, the people of the United States, have a terrible history of legislating discrimination. I think voting on the legality of gay marriage is just another way to legislate discrimination.
The Mormons and the Catholics have decided to make pushing back marriage equality their signature issue.
It's not altogether surprising in the case of the Catholic church. After all, here we have an organized religion that was rocked for decades by the global priest pedophile scandals costing them more than a $1 billion in payments to settle claims and the loss of their moral authority. What better issue for them to exploit to try and regain their footing than gay marriage?
The Mormons, on the other hand, are committed to traditional family even it it means they quietly support non-traditional paradigms like the illegal practice of polygamy. Yes, Virginia, polygamy is alive and well in the Mormon church. They see gay marriage as insufficient to grow families and for them, it's all about survival and that means kids.
Gay marriage equality is the issue that validates my decision to part company with the Catholic church more than 20 years ago. Of course, truth be told, I never really bought the fictional account of Jesus being brought back to life and walking out of that cave. I mean, really? This is patently Palinesque.
the hypocrisy from your aunts is quite amazing -
i cant add anything to well put thoughts and logic.
and how many of these louts who profess how bad gay marriage is end up either cheating or abusing their spouses - vitter, sanford and the guy in missouri
we sadly live in one of the most discriminatory nations on earth - only we just will never admit it
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